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Turning Your Pain into Purpose


We all face adversity at some point(s) in our lives. For many us, the first thing we do is feel awful. That’s understandable. But what can you do after that? Can we learn to see our pain as it leads us into a new passion, project or even a more meaningful purpose? I believe it is possible. I’m working on that plan for myself. Along the way past pain, through the forest of suffering, grief, and loss - I came to find a new reason for being and a new way to look at the changes in my life brought on by chronic pain as a “gift in disguise.” I want to share some of those ideas with you in three ways to help you to see the bright-side of living with pain in honor of September as Pain Awareness Month and #livingwithpain. 1. Where there’s Pain, there’s Purpose When you lose something, a relationship, or a skill you can no longer do due to your pain or illness in life, it upsets you and is very painful in a different and an emotional way. This is because something meaningful has been taken away. Sometimes your pain points to what you value. So the gift of pain can sometimes be found in realizing what IS important to you, learning how to nurture and cherish it in a new way, or to find methods to help others who face a similar fate. This fosters a deeper desire to connect with others, and a compassion for those going through a similar experience in their lives. You might volunteer, do a project, write a book, or start leading support groups. You manage to find a sense of meaning in what’s happened. A new you. 2. Learning Lessons Think about what you might have gained or learned from a past experiences with pain. Has the change led you to meet different people who enrich your life, or allowed you a new sense of calm or permitted you to put a new boundary in place to protect yourself? I have learned many lessons from adversity and each time I try to remind myself to be grateful. Although the experience was usually unpleasant, I’ve learned more in hindsight and usually haven’t made that same mistake again. Think about your past adversity and painful experiences and what lessons you might have learned. Sometimes the new lesson can be a gift, though not always wrapped up tight with ribbons and bows. 3. Building the Skill of Acceptance to Achieve Peace When things go wrong and we don’t accept them, we feel a lot of pain. When our life and its plans go off track, we can struggle. Finding acceptance is hard. But it’s a skill we can learn to build over time. We can begin with small things. You spill some milk. Your partner forgets to do something. Learning to accept is one of life’s greatest skills, and when things go wrong, it’s a chance to practice that skill. Sometimes over and over. You may never perfect it, but you can get a little bit better each time. Try to develop acceptance by just noticing your emotions in your body when something goes wrong, and just become curious of them rather than trying to immediately react to them which can often cause you pain. This curiosity can be a powerful tool to bring acceptance into your life, especially of the things you can’t change. There is a great deal of comfort and peace to be found when we really understand what we can and cannot control and find better coping mechanisms to face the pain. Life can often not go according to our plans. But remember, when this happens, it’s not all bad. You can do or learn something good as a result. This is one of many different perspectives we can take as a response. The ability to be flexible and see things from different point of view and to look for the upside of even the most painful experiences can help you to see challenges as an occasional gift in disguise.



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