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Everybody Falls, What Matters is How You Get Up

Five Ways To Rise Up Stronger And Better

When you have fallen for any reason in life, you may feel hurt, scared, and broken. Rising back up is important, but you don’t want to carry your negative feelings into your next successful attempt.

How do you rise up stronger and better? Here are five ways to rise up and improve your life.

1. Heal

Sadness, frustration, and disappointment are all normal human emotions you may feel when you have fallen. If you bottle up those feelings, don’t manage them, and don’t take the time you need to heal, they can hurt you physically and emotionally. A study by the Harvard School of Public Health and the University of Rochester showed that bottling up your emotions leads to a 30% greater risk for premature death.

Another study conducted by the University of Texas found that not managing your emotions makes them stronger. You will feel even more sad, frustrated, and disappointed if you don’t take the time to acknowledge your fall and allow yourself to heal.

2. Face the Truth

You will not meet the next challenge stronger and better if you don’t face the truth of why you’ve fallen. People often blame others for their mistakes, but that doesn’t help them learn, grow, and improve. And while some circumstances in life are out of your control, like natural disasters or a sudden or chronic illness, the truth of why you fell is usually more related to what you did or didn’t do and not to what was done to you. It is your reaction to it.

Facing the truth means taking responsibility for what went wrong and what caused you to fall. Taking responsibility allows you to understand what you need to do to rise up stronger and better. There are no shortcuts to improvement. Mistakes, failures, and falls are all part of the learning process.

3. Find the Silver Lining

Part of healing and facing the truth is moving past your fall. How do you rise up stronger and better? Finding the silver lining in your experience helps you focus on what you learned from your fall and what you need to change, how to grow, and what to improve.

Ending a relationship or losing a job can feel like you’ve fallen. Before you date again or accept a new job, consider what you learned from your fall. Each fall should help you know and understand yourself better. The opportunity to improve is your silver lining.

4. Connect with Others

No one could know everything they need to in order to avoid every potential fall in life. According to the Journal of Psychiatry and Neurobiology, humans are social creatures who need and rely on each other for knowledge and support. The stronger your support system is, the stronger and better you are when you rise up from a fall.

Having a mentor is an excellent way to connect with others. A mentor is someone who is accomplished, knowledgeable, and willing to help guide you. A teacher, coach, or supervisor may become a mentor for others. Another way to find a mentor is to join social or networking groups to help introduce you to people who may be willing to become your mentor.

5. Revise Your Plan

Once you’ve fallen, you’ve learned that what you did will not allow you to reach success. It’s time to revise your plan with what you’ve learned so you can rise up stronger and better. When you know what you need to change, you can connect with others and find the knowledge and support you need.

Don’t let having fallen destroy your chance of success. Learn from your experience so you can rise up stronger and better.

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